a long day's night

So my very first post is one in which I commend my soon to be ex husband on his sensibility and willingness to think of his family as we negotiate, mostly without lawyers, our child support settlement. Although the divorce has been looming for nearly a year now, I only recently decided it wasn't going to do itself and saw an attorney to make sure the papers I have are the correct ones and indeed we are on our way to filling them out in a way that will render us amicably divorced. The phrase child support had been bantered around a bit, but it wasn't until my visit with the attorney we began to actively look at spreadsheets and budgets and the cherub faces of our children who would like to continue eating that we entered the land mind filled area of support negotiation in divorce.

I am pleased and proud to report we have reached an agreement. An agreement I feel is generous on my soon to be ex-husband's part, though I'm sure my attorney would like to see even more generosity. But hey, I live in the real middle class world. Neither of us are walking away millionaires here. In fact, both of our standards of living will decrease, and with that our children's as well. What we are trying to protect right now is not the lives of me or their father, but the childhood's of our children. Not only their emotional, spiritual and physical lives, but their economic lives as well. God help us do this right. He's certainly given me hope with this start.